THE SEASON OF ME, MYSELF & I
These days, ya girl is a walking Tiktok compilation. I promise you, there’s a funny ass video or two for every issue in life you’re currently going through. When I was coming up with the theme for todays post, I bust out laughing while shouting “I gotta put me first Lucious !! I gotta put me first !!” Because why not? That video is an excellent depiction of what I’m trying to summarize in this writing. It’s all about ME.
Issa Rae couldn’t have given us this “Me Season” mantra at a better time. Because honestly 2022 has started off as a year dedicated to healing, growing, rediscovering, supporting, prioritizing and focusing on ME. I know how selfish this may sound but honestly, I can care less because why the fuck should I? When you spend years people pleasing, remaining selfless to put others before you and neglecting yourself in the process, deciding to focus on yourself seems like a life long vacation and doesn’t that sound really good at the moment?
As I stroll deeper into my 31st year, I can feel a ton of pressure from others to prioritize family planning. “When are you planning to have a baby?”, “When are you getting married?”, “When are you buying a house?”. All while I feel like I am in the early stages of prime ME time. I am FINALLY getting comfortable in the rediscovery of self. I don’t even know when it’ll never not feel like it’s Me Season again. Please pump your breaks and mind your manners when it comes to the uterus of others, the relationship status of others, and certainly the financial status of others. This is very uncouth of individuals to even care about the lives of those who are choosing themselves. I really hope that God gives these individuals some business of their own so they can stay out of ours lol.
As I navigate through this year of me I have been highlighting self-care at the top of my list time and time again. For myself, self care is deeper than luxury and aesthetics. Self care is more than just Netflix and naps. (Although I love me a good adult naps. I wanna be a nap lol ) Self care is about being gentle with yourself, giving yourself grace and holding space for yourself to undo the subconscious programs that keep you “tied up”. It’s about doing things that allow you to decompress and relax your nervous system because that is so important. When you’re constantly in fight or flight mode you’re not in your body. You aren’t present. It’s hard to heal if your mind is making you run, jump, skip and hop in 5 seconds then repeat.
Self care is PEACE. Which is why the activities that you choose to fulfill are so important for you, but it goes so much deeper than that. Creating a safe space to be fully present with yourself is what self care is about. Giving yourself permission to do things you’ve never been able to do before is soul healing. Adopting a healthy self care routine is stabilizing. It allows you to lay the foundation to work on deeper subconscious programs that once held you hostage from enjoying yourself. Self care is about returning back to the true essence of you. Who you were before the programming.
Self care isn’t just vibes and escapism. Self care isn’t excessive shopping when you haven’t paid your bills yet. Self care is self accountability and discipline. Self care is an essential part of my life as it is necessary for me to shower myself with love, attention, happiness and peace which all promotes a healthy healing journey within myself. As part of my self care routine, I enjoy:
Traveling, whether domestic or international
Staycations in one of the best cities in the world; NYC
Treating myself to an item or two off of my many wishlist
Going wine shopping; 14% or higher or it doesn’t count lol
Routine waxes, massages, facials, mani/pedi
Scouting out new books to read
Journaling, creating to do list
Bi-weekly therapy sessions
Taking care of my body by taking vitamins, eating healthier, gym days
Decreasing screen time, deactivating social media
Monthly hair appointments because new hair activates the BAD BITCH in me
They don’t tell you how much you have to sacrifice to get where you need to be mentally. It’s focus up season. I am not as available as I may want to be, but at the same time, I don’t really want to be. This season in my life is all about trust. Trusting myself to stick to my word, learning how to trust myself, and even my actions. Finding the joy in simple things has changed me in the most beautiful way. Only now am I able to create space to share my thoughts and feelings in hope that you find pleasure on a day that is meant for us to be happy, stress and worry free. SUNDAY. I hope that my blog post thus far has brung you joy or clarity. Most importantly, I hope that it inspires you to appreciate all of life’s simple pleasures. PEACE and happiness is the real bag. Embrace it. Accept it. Prioritize it. Welcome to ME SEASON. It’s so nice to have you here.
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