PRIVACY vs. SECRECY.
43 degrees and cloudy on another amazing Sunday during a NYC Winter? I’ll take that. I will say that if there was one challenge that I was sure would occur during my move back into the city, I just knew that it would be the crazy weather. A NYC Winter is hit or miss. It’s either bearable or intolerable. Yet, here we are lol. The gloom is absolutely adding to yesterday’s diagnosis of my Vitamin D deficiency and as I type I am just side-eyeing mother nature as a whole. However, a diagnosis is not final unless I decide to not put in the work to change it around, and if you know me, then please, you already know I’m on it lol.
Let me first start off by saying Thank You. To anyone who speaks or has spoken my name in rooms that I my not have sat in. To all who support me, those who choose to work with me, all who share my content across the many platforms. To those who believe in me, all who root for me. You have no idea how much your energy is felt and received. I appreciate you deeply. I have nothing but gratitude and joy in mi corazon.
Today, I want to discuss the art of living a public life online but still maintaining your private life offline that no one knows anything about. Because there is a such thing and this lifestyle should unequivocally be “a thing“. Sharing any piece of our lives online to the public is a choice that we make, it is not an obligation, pero onlookers do not seem to understand that. If one of your fellow content creators, your relative or friend has a niche attached to their online content, a specific subject matter that they have built an audience around/ cater to, then as a viewer, this is the part of their life that they are willing to share with you. Nothing more, nor less unless they decide to share more. It is not up to us as viewers to decide what others “should” share with us. And that right there is the issue. When someone decides to share pieces of their lives with us, it feels so personal to us as the viewers. We tend to feel as if we know these individuals on a personal level, and being delusional, we start to believe they are our friends. I’ve watched people obsess over others online, research their salaries, where they live, where they work, who they’re dating etc just because they were so curious as to why more information about them weren’t being shared. Is that not a little scary to you guys? Because ummmm, absolutely not !
A few weeks back, there were inquiries made about myself to a friend all about the “who, what, when, where, why & how” of my life and it was morally disturbing. Apparently, the content that I post raised questions and inquiring minds just wanted to know the “Tea” LOL. As for myself, I live for a good aesthetically pleasing photo or video. EVERYTHING that I post online to the public is calculated. Any tiktok video, and facebook story, any instagram image posted has been planned, thought of, scanned for any privacy concerns etc. There isn’t anything posted by me or about me that hasn’t been examined under a microscope. (How on brand of me right lol). Pero, I would have never for one second thought that anyone would want to know more about me than what they see online simply because I live a normal life. Well, at least to me I do.
My private life isn’t up for debate. I give you all of my tweets unprotected, is that not enough?
Regardless of your title online, you should always make sure to protect yourself and those in your life. Something that you would deem as innocent and harmless to you, can be misconstrued and interpreted incorrectly by someone else which can lead to so many other issues. Be mindful of the personal content that you share. Apartment tours, GRWM, A day in my life post etc. Anything shared with your daily routines, stores & shops that you may frequent, your work commute, the gym you work out in, where you work, the neighborhood you live in should be kept as private as possible unless you are absolutely sure that you are comfortable posting these things. Harm has no uniform and none of us are exempt from it.
I do not do any of this for validation, for praise, or for followers. I create for purpose and impact. Please do not confuse the two. I am not here to convince anybody of my work ethic. I am not here to explain my journey to anyone. My calling was not a conference call, it was just me and God. I am here, and I am present. I do not care for views, popularity or engagement. I want the freedom to create as I choose. I want to continue to create meaningful and impactful content for those who care to see it. And I am sure this goes for everyone else online who shares publicly. You do not have to break yourself down to make your presence digestible for others. Content is controlled and if they aren’t interested in what’s being shared they can opt out. Their triggers are not your responsibility. It isn’t the world’s obligation to tiptoe around their insecurities. On this side, we step BIG, and I must say, this has been my favorite genre.
Sending you all so much love, today and until next week, go out into the world and shake some shit up ! Tell them L.C said so lol.
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